The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys by Violet Blue is an incredibly detailed resource that anyone can use for inspiration and education about sex toys and sex-related products. Violet Blue is a prolific author of educational books about sexuality topics. This book is published by Cleis Press and includes a foreword by Charlie Glickman, who is a fantastic sex educator and presenter.

Blue provides a wonderful introduction to a range of topics that might be of interest to couples. From dildos and webcam shows, to hot wax and the Clone-A-Willy, this guide is incredibly informative. I thought this quote really laid out Blue’s intentions well when she wrote:

A good number of people think of sex toys only as solo tools for personal pleasure. Some even consider sex toy use by couples to be a signifier of things gone wrong, as if using a toy is akin to “cheating,” or as if getting pleasure from something other than the way a couple “should” be having sex is bad or doesn’t count. Or worse, that the couple are deviants or somehow perverted (in a bad way). But the truth is, a couple’s exploration of their shared sexuality through use of sex toys is a healthy sign of a relationship that grows, stretches, and changes with time. It’s a marker of a relationship with open communication, and it means that both parties are interested in deepening their intimacy and truly desire to make each other feel good. Because that’s what sharing sex toys, and using them to come together, is all about. Play, desire, communication, and (of course) getting each other off–royally.

Blue has a wealth of information about sex toys to share, and I found myself bookmarking pages and taking note of what new things I wanted to try. What I love about this book is that it is useful for anyone looking for sex toys and products, and the information is presented in a thoughtful, inclusive way so as to reach the widest audience that it can. From single folks to long distance lovers, kinky couples to polyamorous groups, this guide book can be a fun and informative read. I really appreciated the advice given to long distance partners, because it included them in this discussion about getting off with your loved ones in creative, sometimes remote, ways.

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys provides introductions to a variety of types of sexual activities and products that go along with them. Blue includes cleaning and safety information as well as a list of recommended resources. The illustrations in this book are excellent as well. I cannot wait to visit all of the sites Blue mentions in this guide to see for myself the wide range of products on the market. And to think I was well-informed prior to reading this book!

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Feeling adventurous? In this witty and well-informed guide, bestselling author and chief sex education pundit Violet Blue explains how to choose and use sex toys to play and explore together—and have mind-blowing sex. Also featuring new content by the renowned Dr. Charlie Glickman, THE ADVENTUROUS COUPLE’S GUIDE TO SEX TOYS helps couples redefine alone time. Violet offers tips on creative usage and ideas for introducing sex toys to a relationship for sex toy novices and practiced enthusiasts alike: how to ask your boyfriend to use the blindfold in your bedside drawer or how to surprise your wife with a saucy gift without getting your face slapped (unless that was the point!).

Violet Blue (, @violetblue) is the best-selling author of numerous sex-instruction books, includingThe Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. She also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health for magazines such as O: The Oprah Magazine, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, Esquire, Glamour, Maxim, Marie Claire, Men’s Health, Penthouse, Redbook, and more. She lives in San Francisco.

Dr. Charlie Glickman is the author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostrate Pleasure. He lives in Oakland, CA.

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys
By Violet Blue
Foreword by Charlie Glickman, PhD
$14.95, Trade Paper
168 pages, 5 ½” x 8”
ISBN: 978-1-57344-972-4
Publishing August 13, 2013
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