Confidence is an important feature of one’s self image and self esteem. If a lady is confident she will be happier, friendlier, sexier, and so on. There are endless benefits from confidence. However, how does one become confident?
It certainly doesn’t happen overnight. I was insecure all throughout puberty. I always thought, How could ANYONE find me attractive? Sure I know my personality is awesome, but my looks are a total deal breaker! I was certainly boy crazy, but the whole idea that relationships cannot work between my dream men and myself stuck around in my mind for years. My man-crushes were on a pedestal and I was a lowly gal gazing up at them as though they were immortal (or very tall).
So, how did I change this for myself? I knocked men off their pedestals. I did the unthinkable thing in order to reclaim back what self-love I needed and deserved. I went on blind dates.
Far too many blind dates. No more than 20 for certain, but many of them were educational, awkward, and just plain awful. I learned some great lessons from these.
I always thought I would wait for the prince in shining armor to come galloping toward me and sweep me off my feet. However many guys are not princes and never come galloping. Most men don’t even ride horses. I have learned that lots of men don’t initiate flirting, chit-chat, and dates for many years of their youth, whereas we mature women wait around, looking for men to approach us. What I did was grow impatient (as always), and initiate conversations with men.
It was a learning experience certainly, but what I found along the way was self-value and appreciation. I refuse to settle for less than I deserve. I became a confident, young, proudly sexual woman. I also know more about what characteristics I need and want in a man. I am a pro at talking dirty (and ridin’ dirty, for that matter). But I still think that the best thing that I have gained through these past few years is my confidence and my love for myself. I have to be my biggest fan at least most of the time.
What I wonder is: what experiences do other women have on this journey of discovering themselves, their sexualities, their confidence? What was the turning moment that changed things for the better? What women out there have always been confident?
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