I was allowed to choose what I wanted my assignment to be this week! Master and I agreed to try something non-physically sexual this week, so that I can try doing something different for me and my blog. So, I decided to research physical/ sexual punishments done to a Slave, so that I can decide just how far I would be willing to go in the future.
Where did I look first? Wikipedia. This site ROCKS. Especially because it made me feel better about having some sad, ashamed moments during this whole experience. Here’s what Wikipedia had to say about the Master/Slave Model, otherwise known as a “total power exchange”: “People usually only enter into a master/slave contract after they have known and played with each other for some time, often several years. It can be one of the most difficult relationships in the BDSM world to maintain, and requires special skills and expertise.” ..I’d say so! It’s a really great experience, but man is it tough.
Here’s what Sinclair Sexsmith writes about the topic.
Being a slave isn’t easy people! =) Here’s another nice point about slaves: “Some practitioners feel the difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. However, many who are involved in master/slave relationships see the difference as being conceptual. For example, some slaves may not have a naturally submissive personality, but choose to surrender their will and volition to another.” The important idea is that Master/Slave relationships can be as extreme as is agreed upon with the couple. My relationship between my Master and I is one that purely pertains to sexual activities: masturbation, sex, and assignments I blog about. In addition to the fact that I must obey him in all these respects, I must be polite when speaking to him, and tell him ‘Good Morning Master’ & ‘Good Night Master’. But, you already know all that. I just like reiterating important points. The main goal of this M/S practice, from the Slave’s perspective, is to please and serve the Master. As Wiki states, “This could include servitude, humiliation, public servitude, public use of collar and in some instances leash.”
(en.wikivisual.com) Anyways, one interesting symbol of Slaves is a collar. I’d be okay with wearing a collar in the bedroom, I’ve decided. In public however? It depends on my outfit. If I’m already wearing a (punk) causal outfit, then it would work. If I’m wearing dress clothes or work clothes, then a collar probably wouldn’t fly…..it would have to be a bracelet or something else a bit more modest to wear in public.
Here’s one that NEVER crossed my mind: Enforced chastity of the submissive. How interesting! (gagreport.com)
If I had a Master who could fuck me at his leisure and if I lived with him, then I think I’d be okay with this. Seeing as how I’m independent and alone, I don’t think I’d like this infringement on my independence, even if I would be faithful, for example. I think this is more of an honor code sort of thing. So, as a slave, if my Master requires that I don’t have sex with people without his permission, then I won’t, and this doesn’t need enforced unless as a severe punishment. Wearing a chastity belt for an evening might be exciting, however..
Next possible punishment: erotic humiliation. This covers a wide range of types of ways a Master can humiliate the slave be it through sexual, verbal, psychological, or other means. This can be name calling, spanking (which I’m more than okay with), or other extreme requirements designed purely to humiliate the submissive.
Again, according to Wiki, “On a physical level, BDSM is partly connected to the intentional infliction of physical pain, suffering and other intense sensations….In some BDSM sessions, the Top exposes the Bottom to a wide range of sensual impressions, for example: pinching, biting, scratching with fingernails, spanking or the use of various objects such as whips, ice cubes, or erotic electrostimulation….It is commonly considered that a pleasurable BDSM experience during a session is very strongly dependent upon the Top’s competence and experience and the Bottom’s physical and mental state at the time of the session. Trust and sexual arousal help the partners enter a shared mindset.” I am totally cool with icecubes, whips and spanking. Just throwing that out there.
Courtesy of uk.askmen.com:
Other activities that sometimes occur are verbal humiliation, fetishes, dehumanization, and cross-dressing. I understand the role of verbal humiliation, but I wouldn’t like that, for displeasing my Master to begin with is an upsetting experience. I think that out of those 4 activities, the only one I’m okay with is FETISHES. I consider myself rather conservative as far as fetishes are concerned. I enjoy the kinky factor with roleplaying costumes, such as nurses, maids, etc. and I also love lingerie, including corsets, heels, garter belts, even some latex outfits. Other fetishes include feet, uniforms, smoking, heavy rubber, etc.
Now the NEXT post will be about the different whips & chains that are involved in these practices.
To Be Continued… xoxo