Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
It has always surprised me that even though I don’t consider myself very kinky, others see me as much kinkier than they are. Guess it’s all about perspective. I do consider myself very open-minded and appreciative/accepting of a wide range of healthy, happy sexual lifestyles and practices. I suppose I am not with the majority in that, which makes me sad. People are in bliss in their own ignorance though.
And admittedly, I do like some kink in the bedroom.
Dominant: I do not consider myself to be dominant. If I am comfortable with myself and my company, sometimes I take control of the situation in order to get what I want. This is seen mostly through my initiations of kissing, foreplay, and the like. I do not usually control the situation the entire time. Outside the bedroom I am not generally dominant either although I need to work on that. I think that if I was a little more dominant I would benefit greatly. I sometimes let people walk all over me, which is not okay.
Submissive: I identify mostly with this kink label. Through my experience I have learned that subs have power. They let themselves be directed; they give permission to a trusted person or persons in order for both groups to gain from this power imbalance. I highly respect subs. Another main reason I identify with sub is because I like doing things to show my affection. I like obeying orders (sometimes) because this can arouse me.
Here is my big disclaimer: being a sub doesn’t mean that I like to obey orders coming from anyone who thinks he/she is dominant. If a stranger orders me to suck his cock, I’ll PUNCH HIM IN THE FACE. Or my boyfriend will. Being a sub is a very special, selective identity that isn’t shared with everyone. I’m no one’s slut. I’m no one’s whore (unless I choose to be). I demand respect. I am a sexy woman. I don’t deserve any degrading labels because you think it’s hot. Nope. Why don’t you first find out what I like to be called? *rant over*
I am fairly defiant and feisty. I aim to please, but on my own accord. For the main part, my man and I are equals in the bedroom. But we will probably incorporate some more kink as our bedroom plays progress, I think.
So, at the end of the day, I am a fairly-submissive gal who likes some light kink. xoxo