Category Archives

Archive of posts published in the category: Musings

Newest Kinkly Articles

Hello folks! Just wanted to let you know that I have had some recent posts on Kinkly to share with you! Of course, I think they are all great, but you’ll have to find that out yourselves! 10 Myths about Rape/ Sexual Violence:…

The Presence & Absence of Come

When it comes to the topic of semen, I think about all sexual fluids. I think about “coming” and “come” and how this spunk becomes somehow hyper-sexualized. The demonstration of fluids is a demonstration of arousal, of orgasm, of pleasure, of a job…

Behind

I know that I work better with deadlines, but no guilt. I need to feel the fire of inspiration to put into words the thoughts that are always running through my mind. I just can’t afford to feel overwhelmed. Things get done when…

My Interview on Sex in Words

Hello, folks! I have exciting news to share with you: Jon Pressick–over at the Sex in Words blog–is featuring an interview with me! I’m pleased Jon asked me to do a Q&A because it allowed me to think about what my blog means…

Words of Wisdom

So. I met Nina Hartley. Yeah, it was awesome. She is legendary. To hear more about Nina, her career as a feminist, activist, and porn star as well as her personal sexual experiences, I highly recommend her interview on the podcast Tangentially Speaking that’s…

Casual Dating

Over the past few years I have enjoyed the company of casual partners, all of whom have helped me learn what I know today about my sexuality, through trial and error, and for better or worse. I have stories to tell about my…

Should

Often when people tell me “you should…” they are trying to look out for me or offer advice that they think is best. They are trying to help me live my life to its fullest, for which I am very thankful. But sometimes, sometimes…

On the Radio

When I was younger, the issue of music playing during sex was a concern I had in setting the scene in my imagination. Music was always used to set the mood on TV shows and in movies for people getting ready to get it…

Words

Green fingernails trace the soft pink flesh surrounding pert nipples. The tips stand at attention, which is also what they crave. These nipples desire pain. Sloppy, wet, tooth-inducing pain. Show me your teeth. Sharp canines sink deep into my neck, pressing on a…

Catalyst: How it Inspired

Last weekend, I attended CatalystCon, with a large group of sex bloggers, educators, workers, therapists, researchers, and the like. While I knew that this conference was going to be awesome, what I didn’t expect was for it to be life-changing. It acted as…