When I was younger, the issue of music playing during sex was a concern I had in setting the scene in my imagination. Music was always used to set the mood on TV shows and in movies for people getting ready to get it on. I am also passionate about music, which likely fed into this concern I had about music and sex. So I wondered what songs were appropriate to play during intercourse. Was it common or expected to play music during sex? What songs did people play most often? Additionally, I am sure I’ve seen at least one infomercial for Romance Hits CDs growing up. Those songs were cheesy! What to do!
Am I to play Barry White? *NSYNC? Celine Dion? Tchaikovsky?
How would I make the scene as romantic as possible? Do I need to own candles and silky sheets and massage oils and rose petals? I do not enjoy silky sheets, I’ll say that much.
At present, I have not had sex while music played that I can recall, so the importance of mood setting hasn’t really become an essential component to me. I’ve learned that music isn’t all that important and that there are other things that come to my attention during sex–more important things than the background music, or sheets, or rose petals. I’m busier paying attention to the shared experience of pleasure and oftentimes I am giggling, joking, and playing around. Such fun aspects of intimacy are what’s important to me and the background elements aren’t so critical.
I do remember thinking that dirty, catchy tunes would be fun to listen to while having nasty sex. Ludacris’s “What’s Your Fantasy” comes to mind.
I suppose thinking of this week’s prompt (Radio) helps emphasize that 1) I am a planner/worrier and I like to be prepared, 2) I am a romantic, and 3) I am a horny pervert. This points aren’t new, but it’s fun to see them retrospectively in my younger self.
See who else is being delightfully Wicked this week! xoxo
PS. This post title is the name of a song by Regina Spektor. Yes, I would fuck while listening to her tunes.
We tried sex with music playing juct once, but found it too distracting. We are both rather vocal and prefer to listen to each other.
thanks for sharing. I have developed an enjoyment for music while in a spanking scene, particularly Lords of Acid’s Mighty Rabbit
I have never really thought about what music should be on in the background, but sometimes the television is on and there will be something on there that irritates me so much that I just cannot concentrate on anything else but that. The sound must either be turned down or off. On our two recent playdates a CD was on – Enigma. That really sets the mood
Rebel xox
It really just depends on my mood. Usually no music but there have been times I wanted it on..
Sometimes we have music on but often we don’t.
This morning we had our alarm clocks going off! (They are distracting!)
Yes, I recall that music was an essential in my early days, not so much now. Perhaps it is time to walk down memory lane again.
Rachel x
We often listen to music and I find that it can be helpful to me when writing as long as it is not too loud but it is not a big feature of our sex life, however it has certainly led to a few impromptu lap dances
Mollyxxx
I remember that Bis used to play Ravel’s “Bolero” to “get us in the mood” and it makes me giggle to this day. I prefer silence, big music lover though I am
~Kazi xxx
My post was how horribly chosen some music was during sex, so I feel your pain of choice and planning. I now have a Pandora music station, labeled “sex music”, so that the program can best choose, and if I disagree, I hit thumbs down to never hear it again. It works out great. I need some sort of music going – if nothing else it blocks out the sounds we create from others.